The Inner Work of Love: Desire, Trauma, and Transformation
What if love isn’t something we fall into or chase, but something we learn to embody?
In this episode, Rebecca Hall Gruyter is joined by Becky Moller and Kim Dower for a rich, honest conversation about love in its many forms, healing love, obsessive love, embodied love, and the love that transforms us from the inside out.
Becky shares insights from her bestselling memoir Undone, Unafraid, reflecting on betrayal trauma, mindfulness, and her powerful reframing of life as a “Love Game.” Through her lens, love is not an idea or ideal, but a lived, embodied practice that emerges through healing and presence.
Kim brings a poetic exploration of desire and obsession, drawing from her work on “limerence”, the intoxicating, often misunderstood state of obsessive infatuation. She unpacks the stages of longing, crystallization, deterioration, and release, and how desire can fuel creativity, clarity, and self-understanding, even when love is unreturned.
Together, this conversation explores where love heals, where it confuses, and how awareness, creativity, and presence help us move from longing to wholeness.
As always, you can find our host, Rebecca Hall Gruyter, at
www.yourpurposedrivenpractice.com
About the Guests
Becky Moller is an author, teacher, and mindfulness guide whose work bridges trauma recovery, embodiment, and spiritual awakening. Her path began in 2014 through deep personal immersion in addiction and trauma recovery, later serving as Executive Director of a global recovery foundation.
A certified yoga instructor, university-level educator, and mindfulness and meditation teacher, Becky integrates embodiment with proven recovery principles. She is the founder of Undone Academy, a yearlong framework supporting healing through life’s unravelings, and the author of the bestselling memoir Undone, Unafraid, which chronicles her journey from collapse to conscious, embodied living.
Connect with Becky:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/undoneacademy/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebeccarmoller/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/becky-moller-159643230/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC8wzQA5FDVaTYUPox_NACSA
Website: https://beckymoller.com
Kim Dower is an award-winning, bestselling poet and former City Poet Laureate of West Hollywood. She is the author of six poetry collections from Red Hen Press, including What She Wants: Poems on Obsession, Desire, Despair, Euphoria, praised for its raw honesty and emotional clarity.
Kim’s work has appeared in major literary journals and anthologies, and her poetry explores desire, longing, and the complexities of romantic love. Her recent collection centers on the concept of “limerence,” tracing the emotional stages of obsessive love with wit, vulnerability, and precision. Kim lives in West Hollywood, California, where she teaches poetry workshops and continues to explore the shared emotional terrain that connects us all.
Connect with Kim:
Website: https://www.kimdowerpoetry.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimdowerpoetry/?hl=en
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kim.dower.3/