Fire in the Heart

How do we move through multiple losses in a short period of time? What helps along the way? When Deborah Allen lost 5 of the most significant people in her life in just a few years, her considerable resiliency was put to the test! Her usual strategies didn't work, and she was submerged in an ocean of pain. Another family member, also coping with the same losses, excused herself every night to watch NCIS. As strange as that seemed to her, Deborah tried it herself and found in watching every episode of every NCIS series a container for all of her complicated and varied feelings. And over time, she began to emerge from the worst time in her life, one episode at a time. What was helpful about it? And can her experience help all of us to follow the illogical and surprising road of grief exactly where it leads us? If we can, we have a way through to a new way of engaging in our lives.