Fire It Up: How Couples Rebuild Trust, Joy, and Emotional Closeness w/ Carolyn Sharp

This week on Next Steps Forward, Dr. Chris Meek is joined by Carolyn Sharp, a nationally recognized relationship expert, licensed independent clinical social worker, and award-winning author of Fire It Up: Four Secrets to Reigniting Intimacy and Joy in Your Relationship. With more than 30 years of experience helping couples build resilient connections, Carolyn offers deep insights into the nature of true intimacy, why it often fades, and how attachment styles, subtle relationship patterns, and major breaches of trust shape long-term connection. She also explains how couples can reignite emotional closeness, the difference between intimacy and sexual connection, and the transformative role of PACT, the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy.

Chris and Carolyn will explore the world of high-conflict couples: what defines them, how early experiences fuel repeated patterns, and how professionals determine whether partners should stay together or separate for their safety and well-being. Carolyn reflects on her career path from working with children in the foster care system to counseling high-conflict couples, sharing the lessons she’s learned about resilience, healing, and the rebuilding of trust. 

About Carolyn Sharp: Carolyn Sharp, LICSW, is a nationally recognized relationship expert with over 30 years of experience helping couples, individuals, and teams build resilient connections. Her career began working with severely impacted children in foster care, later serving as Clinical Director at the YMCA and faculty member at Washington School for Professional Psychology, training future therapists. In 2005, Carolyn launched her private practice, specializing in high-conflict couples therapy. She trained extensively with Dr. Stan Tatkin, founder of PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy), and served as a PACT Institute ambassador.

Carolyn expanded into coaching, retreats, and corporate consulting, creating transformational experiences worldwide using real-time, science-based interventions. She's the award-winning author of Fire It Up: Four Secrets to Reigniting Intimacy and Joy in Your Relationship, has spoken for The New York Times Company, and is a Psychology Today columnist. She leads sold-out retreats across the U.S. and Italy. Known for her direct, insightful, humor-infused style, Carolyn brings deep compassion and a no-nonsense drive for real change. Personally, after navigating divorce and blending a family of four teenagers, Carolyn understands firsthand the work required for lasting love. She lives in Massachusetts with her husband, passionate about helping others build relationships that are joyful, resilient, and fully alive.